"I get that you want that. But, how does it serve you to stay right where you're at?"
"It doesn't serve me! I hate it!"
"Hmm. Well... if it didn't serve you somehow... perhaps in a way that protects you from something bigger or darker... than you would have likely gotten what you wanted a long time ago."
"It's your turn. How does it serve you to not change?"
"I don't have to fail. If I never really commit, than I never really fail."
"So, it sounds like you have your life set up so you don't get what you want because you don't take the risk of failing?"
"I guess so. And, the next question you're going to ask is, "Am I willing to take the risk? and the answer is Yes. I want this. And I am willing to take the risk of failure... because to do nothing, or to stay in this spin cycle, is not working."